Final Post #3
15 years ago
Thursday, November 6, 2008
Comm105-filters
When I think about what I would like in a person I would want for a romantic partner I think about common interests. Although I have to admit that when I see a hot girl I definitely have to notice. In my experience though, the thing I find most attractive about a girl is her personality. Because most of the girls that I have liked, I find that their looks are moderate but cute, and they have a strong personality to add to that. What strikes me as unnatractive is the persons ability to be shallow and snobby. I don't care how hot they are, if they are these things then I'm not into them. It's kind of a problem with me the way some people judge me based on my looks. They think I'm the kind of guy who only goes for the hot girls. Not true. I like the geeky, sometimes nerdy, but smart and funny girl, to be very attractive. And if one of those girls, who may think they are unnattractive and insecure, has the courage to come up to me and try to ask me out, I think it is very cool and flattering. It does gain my interest. But this is sounding like a match.com personal so I'm just going to say that everyone's filters are different. Their turn offs and turn ons, pet peeves, personal characteristics, bank account. These are just some of the things that people base their future relationships on. Why? It takes away from the experience of the heart.
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I agree- I think that cognitive cues can be a deal breaker for most people. Many of us have a physical ideal, but in the end cognitive cues seem to rule. I also think that I am more attracted to someone (physically and intellectually) based on their values and ideas. In that sense we might be straying from what culture says is beautiful, but we are closer to our ideal person. It seems like you also use preinteraction cues when you see someone attractive walking down the street. Often times people turn their heads at a woman who is attractive to them, and in addition to her physical appeal, she likely uses very engaging or positive nonverbal communication.
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